A while back I was working with one of my coaching groups on goal setting. They were asking questions like, “How big a goal do you set? Do you go for the moon, or do you set something safe, something you know you can do?”
Turns out, it’s not so much the size of the goal as its nature that is important.
The nature of a goal
The first thing to keep in mind is that the nature of a goal is to be a destination. It’s not the thing you get at the end of your journey; it’s the gestalt of who you will be, how you will see the world, and what will be available to you when you get there.
A good goal will stretch you. It will require you to grow in both ability and capacity. In order to achieve it you will need to become more skillful and more teachable.
And a good goal should be congruent with who you are and what you have to work with. It should align with your values and your deep inner knowing.
Three elements of right-sized goals
Setting goals requires deep listening as well as realistic assessment of where you are and what you have to work with. Here are three elements that, when you pay attention to them, will guide you to right-sized goals.
The elements are aspiration, receivability, and gratitude.