The majority of my clients resist mindfulness meditation at first, although the time commitment is small and the payoff is enormous.
One insisted that it wasn’t necessary and that she didn’t have enough time in her day to devote to a regular practice. Then she went through the loss of a parent, and had such trouble coping that she couldn’t even drag herself out of bed.
After missing work ten days straight, she called me for my advice. I told her to mindfully meditate while in bed. Terrified and bewildered, my client did and, in a few days, found that she could face going to work again.
After that, whenever she was in an overwhelming state of grief or so distracted that she couldn’t focus, she would close her door, tell her assistant to hold all her calls and do a five-minute meditation. Slowly, her grief lessened.
Typically, those who resist meditation are buying in to one of the following four common myths that create resistance to regular mindfulness meditation practice.
Myth 1: I’m too restless and busy to learn to be quiet and practice any form of meditation.
Just twenty minutes on a meditation cushion twice each day will cause you to need less sleep, be more productive and less distracted, and make the most of your time during the day.
When you first begin to meditate, you’re likely to experience many mental distractions. Rather than judge your self; simply observe any disruptive thoughts, feelings, or sensations and set them aside.
You’ll never have complete freedom from distractions, but with practice, it’ll be easier to quickly turn down the volume on them. As your concentration abilities increase, so will your mind-strength.
Quickly, you’ll discover that you can simply rest and relax into the moment, enjoying the sense of spaciousness and abundance.
Myth 2: If I practice mindfulness, it will put out the fire of my ambition and creativity.
Mindfulness practice seems to ground restless people, transforming their energy from a chaotic, even manic, discharge to a more focused and heightened exuberance that then can be channeled into productivity.
If you’re uncomfortable with the thought of slowing down your mental output because you think you’ll lose something valuable, keep in mind that this is not the goal of mindfulness practice. Instead this approach will allow you to access some of the vitality and passion you associate with mania.